Melbourne Relationship
Counselling & Psychotherapy

FAQs

What type of issues can I get help for at MRCP?

At MRCP our highly trained and experienced practitioners work
with a wide range of issues. These include but are not limited to:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Grief and Loss
  • Trauma
  • Addiction
  • Relationships
  • Self-esteem
  • Parenting
  • Anger Management
  • Motivation
  • Life Coaching
  • Life Transitions
  • Families
  • Couples
  • Phobias
  • Stress Management
  • Sexuality
  • Identity
  • Executive Coaching
  • Sleep
  • Eating
  • Post Natal Depression
  • Sexual Assault
  • Domestic Violence
  • Clinical Supervision
  • Critical Incident Debriefing
  • School Refusal
  • Bullying

What do I need to prepare for entering counselling?

Coming to counselling can be a big step, and can sometimes mean sharing very personal issues for the first time. It is normal to feel some apprehension and nervousness. It is important to give yourself time to get to know your therapist and to adjust to the counselling process.

How long will it take?

The length of counselling will vary depending on a range of factors, some of which include what a person is looking for, how intense and long-standing the issues are, and how well supported a person is outside of counselling. Often some relief and new awareness will be experienced after only a few sessions, and some new skills developed shortly thereafter, involving weeks or a few months. Deeper personality and habit change and the consolidation of new skills can take longer, involving months and maybe years.

What if I want counselling but my partner or family don’t?

You can’t force someone to attend counselling. Individuals can feel helpless in this situation and feel there is no way of changing relationship problems. However, it is still useful for an individual to come alone to work on relationship issues. When one person changes in a relationship, this can often bring about change in the other partner or family. When you come in for therapy on your own you can hear a more objective point of view regarding your relationship and maybe gain a different perspective or new insight on the issues. Sometimes this also involves uncovering what lies beneath these issues and out of awareness.

What kind of questions can I ask my counsellor?

You have the right to ask any question about what happens in counselling, including what type of treatment you are getting, your therapists personal values and ideas that inform their work and much more. The relationship you develop with your therapist should be negotiated and not one way.

What happens in the first session?

The first session has a number of important aims. This includes getting to know each other, discuss the process of therapy including aims and expectations, begin creating a safe and trusting connection and environment, and begin the process of assessing the issues and possible treatment options. During the first session focus is drawn to the problem that brought you to counselling, as well as the story behind it, as the therapist seeks to understand you better. The first session also gives you an opportunity to assess whether you feel comfortable with your therapists manner, personality and way of working.

When can I expect to see improvement?

This will vary for people depending on the nature of the problems they are experiencing. Most often than not people will notice some improvement after the first session, as simply talking about the problem and sharing it helps alleviate some of the confusion, pressure and isolation people experience. More significant improvement comes naturally with the time and energy investment people make in the counselling process. Significant change can sometimes be achieved quickly, though more often than not is equivalent to the time and energy invested, like with most things we do in life.

What if I don’t know what to say?

This can be a common experience for people new to counselling, but don’t worry. Your therapist is experienced at helping people find words to tell their story, sometimes through talking, and other times through using more creative means like focusing on your body’s experience, and expressing yourself through movement or art.

We’re thinking about separating, so is counselling still worth it?

Counselling can be useful in this situation for couples or individuals, to help them think through carefully why they are thinking of separating. Counselling can help couples separate respectfully, which saves the couple and their children much emotional and financial stress. Acrimonious separations can take many years and create huge emotional and financial damage. The cost of counselling is only a very small fraction of the cost of engaging lawyers.

What happens to the information I provide?

All information provided is kept confidentially and securely. Clients can access their information through Freedom on Information. Information can also be subpoenaed by a court where appropriate. Confidentiality can also be compromised if a client presents a risk to themselves or others.

What is Gestalt Therapy?

Gestalt Therapy focuses on the practise of here and now awareness (often also referred to as “mindfulness”). Attention is paid to direct experience versus indirect or secondary interpretation. The individual learns to become aware of what he or she is experiencing and this forms a catalyst for more choiceful change and growth. Gestalt Therapy is an existential form of psychotherapy that promotes personal responsibility whilst also focusing heavily on the role of relational support. In therapy focus is drawn to the unfolding relationship between the therapist and client as a forum for learning and development. Aims of the approach are to help people achieve greater authenticity, improve their ability to relate successfully with others and integration of mind, body and soul.

What is Couple Counselling?

Couple counselling is designed to help couples understand difficulties they may be experiencing in their relationship and support them to find ways to improve their connection and satisfaction. Couple counselling can help couple rediscover why they were attracted to each other in the first place, find out what had gone wrong, understand how each partner has contributed, explore how partners feel now and what they are prepared to do to make the relationship work. Couple counselling can help couples rediscover meaning, hope, connection, and sexual intimacy. For couples that have decided to or are contemplating divorce or separation, couple counselling can help partners manage strong feelings of anger and grief, support the process of acceptance and moving on, support respectful communication and negotiation, support psychological safety for adults and children, and face being single or re-partnering.

What is Family Counselling?

Family counselling like couple counselling is designed to help families understand difficulties they may be experiencing in their family relationships and support them to find ways to improve their connection and satisfaction. Family counselling provides an opportunity for family members to discuss and resolve difficult family situations, experiences and relationships. It encourages shared responsibility and problem solving, and can help family members understand a problem better, what went wrong, how family members have contributed, how family members feel now and what they are prepared to do to address the problem. It shifts the focus away from the individual (although this is explored) and considers the influence of the family and other relationships on issues of concern.